Services

Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction

Sex addiction is a condition characterized by the loss of control over sexual behaviors, leading to harmful consequences for the individual and those around them. These consequences include relationship distress, instability in mental and emotional well-being, separation or divorce, job loss, compromised health, restricted freedom, spiritual deprivation, difficulties with intimacy, and a sense of shame. It is worth noting that porn addiction, combined with masturbation, is the most prevalent form of sex addiction. Typically, sex addiction begins with the involvement of pornography and masturbation and may progress to include fetishes, cybersex, multiple casual encounters, extramarital affairs, engaging with prostitutes, and even illegal activities in certain cases.

During the initial counseling session at Chosen for Victory, Roxanne & Robert assist in identifying the specific types of sex addiction you may be experiencing, followed by offering a well-established recovery program. By wholeheartedly embracing the recovery process (rather than merely engaging with it superficially), not only will you overcome the addiction, but you will also maintain your freedom.

Sexual Betrayal Trauma

The exposure or disclosure of your partner's sexual infidelity and lies may have caught you off guard. As a result, you may be experiencing a whirlwind of emotions, feeling lost, confused, and desperate for answers. At Chosen for Victory, Roxanne and Robert offer a safe and understanding space where you can express your feelings and explore ways to cope. In the beginning sessions, they will assist you in making decisions, establishing healthy boundaries, and practicing self-care. Rest assured that all of your questions will be addressed.

Roxanne & Robert will be available in future sessions to assist you in recovering from additional challenges related to the crisis, such as depression, anxiety, unhealthy coping mechanisms, controlling behaviors, people-pleasing tendencies, experiences of abuse, difficulties with intimacy, family-related concerns, and low self-esteem. It is important to remember that you are not alone! Support and optimism are available to you and your relationship.

Intimacy Anorexia

Intimacy anorexia refers to the deliberate withholding of mental, emotional, spiritual, and/or physical intimacy from one's partner. To gain a comprehensive understanding of this condition, we recommend reading Dr. Doug Weiss' book titled Intimacy Anorexia: Healing the Hidden Addiction in Your Marriage. Roxanne & Robert Frost at Chosen for Victory possess extensive knowledge about this issue and its detrimental impact on relationships. They will expertly guide you through a step-by-step process to overcome intimacy anorexia and transform your relationship from mere roommates to a loving and caring connection enriched with emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy. It is worth noting that intimacy anorexia commonly occurs as a consequence of sex addiction.

Additionally, the characteristics of intimacy anorexia can stem from familial background concerns, experiences of sexual abuse, or reactivity. Roxanne & Robert are here to assist you in identifying whether you are affected by intimacy anorexia, delve into the underlying causes of the condition, and provide you with effective strategies to conquer this issue. It is possible to achieve genuine and enduring intimacy in your relationship!

Marriage Counselling

Robert and Roxanne will celebrate their fortieth wedding anniversary this year (2023). Throughout their marriage, they faced significant challenges due to Robert's undisclosed addiction to pornography. As the problems became overwhelming, both Robert and Roxanne embarked on a healing process involving counseling, group meetings, self-help literature and their faith. Through this journey, Robert has learned how to overcome his sexual addiction and treat Roxanne with respect and love. Similarly, Roxanne has undergone her own healing journey from the trauma caused by her partner's betrayal. They are deeply committed to the institution of marriage and are passionate about assisting others in not only surviving but thriving in their own marriages. Their expertise lies in helping individuals break free from addictions, conquer intimacy issues, and strengthen the foundational pillars of their relationships.

Fees

• $110 ($104.76 + GST) for 55-60 minutes for individual and couple’s counselling with Robert or Roxanne.
• $110 for 55-60 minutes of life coaching with Roxanne (women only).
• $110 for 55-60 minutes of life coaching with Robert (men only).
• On occasion, a client requests to talk to both Roxanne and Robert at the same time. The cost for a session like this is $150 for 55-60 minutes.
• Payments are made by credit card or E transfer.

FAQs

Does insurance cover the cost?

Please review your insurance plan to determine if counselling is covered. Roxanne and Robert hold a master's degree in counselling, are certified in sexual recovery therapy, and are members of the Professional Association of Christian Counsellors and Psychotherapists (Robert Certification 729SK21, Roxanne Certification 728SK21). It is important to note that coverage for these credentials may vary depending on your specific insurance plan. If your plan covers their credentials, you will be required to pay Roxanne and/or Robert directly and then submit your receipts for reimbursement. Please be aware that Chosen for Victory does not offer direct billing services.

What is your cancellation policy?

 24 hours notice is required if you want to cancel or reschedule your appointment. You are responsible for payment of the full fee for late cancellations, reschedules or missed appointments.

What are your office hours?

(Saskatchewan Time) Monday 10am-5pm, Tuesday 10am-5pm, Wednesday 10am-5pm, Thursday 10am-5pm, Friday 10am-5pm. 

Do I have to be Christian to see Roxanne and/or Robert?

Our counselors, Robert and Roxanne, hold Christian beliefs when it comes to marriage and sexuality. However, we warmly welcome non-Christians and guarantee that they will be treated with utmost dignity, respect, and receive top-notch counseling and psychotherapy services.

Is telephone/Zoom video counselling effective?

Certainly! In reality, studies show that telephone Zoom video counselling is equally as effective as in-person counselling. This mode of therapy offers numerous advantages, including time saved on commuting, accessibility for individuals residing in remote areas, access to specialized assistance that may not be locally available, and the convenience of receiving counselling from the comfort of one's own home or workplace. It's worth noting that Robert & Roxanne exclusively provide online sessions through video (via Zoom) or phone, as they no longer have an office for in-person counselling. We welcome clients from across Canada who are struggling in their marriages.